Making Healthy Choices that Improve Financial & Physical Fitness

Are you making healthy choices in your life? If you’re like me, you probably improve in one area for a while and then regress.  Then, you try to pick up the slack in another area only to regress again.  It’s a vicious cycle. And, dammit, it’s down right annoying and frustrating.  Why is it that … Read more

Lessons from Dad: A Tribute to the Fathers that Shape Us

What lessons from dad have stuck with you into adulthood?  That’s the question I have for all of us today.

lessons from dadI realize that in today’s culture it’s acceptable to poke fun at fathers and men in general.  The idiot savant father figure is practically a staple in today’s American family sitcom.  Think Phil Dunphy from Modern Family or Tim Taylor from Home Improvement.

However, whether we realize it or not, the impact of our fathers and the lessons from dad shape us in a way we never truly understand until we’re parents ourselves.  How can we know what it’s like to raise a child when we’re still children?  You have to experience that and so many other things in life to “get” why your dad is the way he is.

So, allow me to explore that today with you.  After all, it’s important to discuss things that go beyond money and fitness.  Why?  Well, our understanding of and mindset behind these subjects are very much impacted by our parents’ behavior.

That’s why I believe it’s important to explore it.  And to do so, I’ll share with you some things that my father and father-in-law taught me.  Further, I’ll also give you a glimpse of what I’ve learned in the 20 months I’ve been a father.

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I’m a Fraud but You Should Still Listen to Me

I’m a fraud.  You read that right.  I’m a fraud.

I’m not what I post on Facebook.  I don’t practice the lessons or tips I preach here as often as I should.  I messed up a lot along the way.

I'm a FraudYou get the lessons I learned.  But, the fact that I even had the journey makes me feel like a fraud.

I try to be honest with you about my situation, but, frankly, I still have credit card debt myself.

My full-time job as an auditor is not a source of joy or inspiration.

I’m not the best husband or father. I screw up a lot.

I’m not even a good Christian. I judge and I curse.  I do things and think things I shouldn’t.  And, yes, I’m a sinner.

I’m not the fastest runner. I’m more middle of the pack.  Some days, I don’t always even feel like running.

Can you see now why I believe I’m a fraud?

I’m a fraud.  So, why listen to me?

Even though I feel like I’m a fraud, I can tell you a lot about what not to do. I can tell you about the path not to take.  I can show you how doing X with your money will lead you to Y.   Also, I can show you how not to eat junk because when you do it leads to weight gain.  I can tell you to cross train because it will make you a better runner and how I was not disciplined enough to do it.

I realized something about Run The Money and why I’m even doing this. It’s NOT because I know so much more than anyone else.  God knows I don’t and I’d be lying if I said I did.

Rather, I started RTM because I finally get it. I’ve lived 32 years on this earth and I get it.  No, I don’t understand everything, but I get this.

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Life Lessons from the Military: What These Veterans Learned from Serving

I posted a question on Quora asking veterans if they learned any life lessons from the military.  Specifically, I asked the following:

For veterans and active duty military, what are some important lessons you learned while serving?

life lessons from the militaryThe response was actually very interesting.  I appreciated these veterans taking the time to share their experiences with us.

While I never had the privilege of serving myself, my wife and I both have family members and friends who served.  I can’t imagine what being half a world away in the middle of a war zone is like.  The closest thing I’ll ever come to witnessing something like that is on television or the movie screen.

Of course, that is nowhere near what it’s like.  These brave men and women risk their lives for us on a daily basis.  No matter what side of the political spectrum you fall, we all must respect that.  We want them on that wall, we need them on that all.  Sorry, couldn’t help myself!

With that brief intro, I wanted to provide with some of the best answers to the question on life lessons from the military.  Veteran or not, I believe we can all benefit from what these brave souls have endured.

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Mom Taught Me: Lessons from my Mother, Wife, & Mother-in-Law

Certain people are placed into our daily lives for a variety of reasons.  They shape our beliefs about finances, health, relationships, and even deeper truths involving spirituality and living a better life.  With it being Mother’s Day, I wanted to share with you some lessons my mom taught me.  However, I also wanted to explore amazing things I learned from other mothers in my life: my wife and mother-in-law.

mom taught meAs a guy, Mother’s Day is a little uncomfortable for me.  I know, I know, it sounds weird to say that in this day and age.  It’s not politically correct or whatever.  I don’t know.  But, it involves expressing your feelings for the mothers in your life and that’s not something I always want to do.

That said, before you bite my head off, consider the feelings I’m expressing here in this post.  In essence, this is the Mother’s Day card to transcend all Mother’s Day cards and it’s to the three most important mothers in my life.

I know you will be able to relate to the sentiments I share.  No personal finance, health, or mindset lessons here.  Just a nice read on a beautiful spring holiday.

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My Mom taught me to protect the family

Let me start by saying that my mother was the only woman in a house with 4 men.  My father, of course, plus her three boys of which I am the oldest.  To say we would give my mom a hard time is the understatement of the year.

In fact, as we grew up, we would often poke fun at her or torment her as boys can do.  In our defense, it was often in retaliation for what we perceived to be overreactions about trivial matters in life.  However, each of us had a difficult relationship at times with her growing up.  Whether that was her fault or our fault is still a fun family topic during the holidays!

Nevertheless, no matter what was going in life, my mother was always there for us.  She was the “mama bear” protector of the family.  When things were going down, you called in Pat (her name is Patricia).

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Growth Mindset: 3 Ways Running Provides Mental Toughness

Do you ever wonder how the world’s elite athletes do it?

They make it look so easy. Tom Brady executes a perfectly thrown ball for a touchdown.  Usain Bolt outruns the field yet again.  Clayton Kershaw throws a pitch with pinpoint accuracy on the black for strike 3.  Phil Mickelson sinks an unlikely 30-foot putt.

What’s the secret? Well, if you ask Darren Hardy of Success Magazine, it’s about the grind:

It’s the hours in the gym that you don’t see.

It’s the thousands of balls they hit on the practice green that is not filmed.

It is the hundreds of gigs they perform in small seedy clubs for no pay.

It is the thousands of calls they make that DON’T result in a sale.

It’s the years of two-a-days in the hot sun and grinding it out in the minor leagues and doing meetings where no one shows up.

All those moments, despite the boredom and the mundaneness, they keep GRINDING!

Do yourself a favor and read the full article.  It’s worth it and incredibly motivating.

You need to consider this when you start running. It’s not about race day.  It’s about your growth as a runner.  That growth is key and it comes first with a mindset of growth.  You see, it wasn’t until I started training for my first half marathon that I began to harness the mental toughness to do another half marathon and even fathom I could finish a marathon.

In my experience, the mental toughness that produces a growth mindset is inevitably drawn from the 3 key areas I discuss below. These are important to remember as you embark on any worthwhile endeavor.  You should keep them in mind as you begin your training.

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Cultivating Discipline in All Areas of Your Life

I want to discuss a topic that may make you cringe.  Cultivating discipline.

cultivating disciplineNow, I know the word discipline itself has a bad connotation.  You hate hearing it. It harkens back to days where you were told to sit up straight in school or you would go to the principal’s (disciplinarian’s) office (at least in Catholic school).  Or your parents would discipline you by grounding you for not doing your chores or something.  Yes, discipline.

As individuals in our 20s, 30s, and 40s here, we are responsible for fostering our own discipline and mindset. Sure, our bosses could reprimand us or the cop that pulled us over can give us a ticket.  Those are forms of discipline.  But, true day in and day out responsibility and accountability comes down to cultivating discipline in ourselves and our daily routine.

Would you agree?

Here with Run The Money, I am focusing on cultivating discipline in the areas of financial health and physical health. All of these require a mature amount of discipline to not only invoke in our lives, but consistently apply to our lives.

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